Our Resolutions To Ourselves As Cancer Survivors

Throughout Cervical Cancer Awareness Month, we focus on outreach and educating others. But in this time of new year’s resolutions and new beginnings, let’s not forget about ourselves. A few resolutions for life beyond cancer include: 

  • No longer sweat the small stuff. We know just how short life can be. Therefore, let’s not waste time on things (or people!) that really don’t matter, or build us up.
  • Cherish the people who really matter to you.  Our time is precious. Choose to spend it with people who matter.
  • Love the skin you’re in. We may all yearn for our lives before cancer. But the truth, following our experiences, we are no longer that person. Embrace the new you. It just might surprise you!
  • Try to leave fear behind: Those of us who are still here are blessed to be alive, no matter the physical or emotional limitations. We may be plagued by fear of re-occurrence, occasionally or continually. But it’s important to keep that in check and  live… like never before.
  • Enjoy life. Give yourself permission to enjoy, relax, and to rest and reset. 
  • Be adventurous. Do things that scare the crap out of you. Why? Because they remind you that you’re still here.
  • Spend time outdoors for physical and mental health. Whether you want to exercise, find a quiet space to sit, or even just picnic outside with friends, the outdoors is a great space to be in the moment, find beauty in the world and forget about responsibilities that may induce stress.
Survivors keeping one another motivated and challenged! They understand!
  • Make “healthy” fun: Find ways to make your health goals also fun goals. For example, schedule walks with friends instead of lunches or dinners. At Cervivor, we offer the “Survivor Slimdown” – a Facebook community focused on health and weight loss that is both supportive, motivating and fun.
  • Plug in to your community: Don’t be afraid to lean on friends, family and ask for the specific help you may need. The clearer we can be articulating the type of support we may need, the better our support will be. And of course, plug into Cervivor wherever and whenever you need us. We are here for you!

May we all have a happy, productive, fulfilling and healthy 2020!

For more tips on living your best life during and beyond cancer, check out Cervivor Founder, Tamika Felder‘s book, Seriously, What Are You Waiting For? 13 Actions To Ignite Your Life & Achieve The Ultimate Comeback.” 

Bringing in a New Year: Resolutions to Reflections

Like so many, I was quick to make resolutions each New Year. That is before cancer. Things like losing weight, taking vacations, were big on my list. But after cancer, or in my case, during cancer, I just couldn’t jump on the resolution bandwagon.

When you’re in the throws of cancer, you’re just trying to get to the next day. You think, let’s hope I don’t puke today or that maybe I’ll be able to get out of bed to take a shower. The thought of the next twelve months scares the crap out of you and setting expectations just feels like a recipe for failure.

While I was trying to get to the next day, I started to become very aware of the ‘gifts’ the universe or whatever was giving me. Like watching an amazing sunset so intense it brought tears to my eyes. On a good day, hiking amongst the largest and most beautiful trees I’d ever seen. Or being able to spend an afternoon with my nieces, playing make-believe super heroes.

I realized that these gloriously fleeting moments, is what made up my entire year. These were the things I would call upon from my chemo-ridden memory banks to pull me up from the darkest depths when I could not face the world.

I wasn’t the cancer survivor/patient filling my year with running marathons or walking along the Great Wall of China, but I was doing my best to embrace what makes me happiest and slowing down to take in every second.

It suddenly became so clear. Forget resolutions, I decided to create a “Top Ten Moments” list at the end of each year. Reflecting instead of being resolute. Reflection by definition means we consider an idea or purpose. My purpose is to live in the moment and the idea is to do it as much on my terms as possible.

Your top moments this year might be something grand like the moment you heard the words “No evidence of disease” or completing a “Living Life List” item. Perhaps your moments are full of those ‘gifts’ I mentioned or maybe it’s a combination of both. Time has a way of moving forward, with or without us so why not reflect on what the year brought us, good and bad.

Find out more about Cervivor Ambassador Carol’s story:  https://cervivor.org/stories/carol/