Finding Your Own Summer: Navigating Cervical Cancer Survivorship When the World Feels “On Vacation”

By the Cervivor Communications Team

“Just relax.”

It’s easy advice to give during the summer.

After all, this is supposed to be the season of vacations, sunshine, and making memories. Social media fills with beach trips, backyard barbecues, family reunions, and weekends by the water.

But for many cervical cancer survivors, summer can bring a complicated mix of emotions. While the world seems to lean into rest and normalcy, survivorship doesn’t take the summer off.

For some, this season brings milestones worth celebrating. For others, it’s marked by treatment cycles, scan anxiety, grief, or the lingering effects of cancer that don’t fade when the weather warms. Many experience all of it.

In a recent letter published in CURE, Cervivor Founder and Chief Visionary Tamika Felder reflected on this disconnect from personal experience. Just days before her 26th birthday, she underwent a radical hysterectomy — and even planning a simple vacation felt different. Packing meant extra toiletries, a “barf bag” close by, and mapping every restroom along the route.

Realities like these inspired Tamika to create Cervivor 21 years ago: a community where no one has to pretend they’re “fine” just because treatment has ended or the sun is shining.

That message continues to resonate across the Cervivor community.

Healing Isn’t Always What We Expect

“Anything by the water is my happy place,” says Tiera. But after finishing treatment, the scars from cancer and other surgeries almost kept her from taking a beach vacation.

For Cervivor Community Outreach and Partnership Director Tiera Wade, one of the first summers after treatment was supposed to be a celebration. She and her best friend had planned a beach getaway, and she couldn’t wait to spend time by the water.

Then she looked in the mirror. After multiple surgeries, more than 10 scars crossed her abdomen. For a moment, excitement gave way to self-consciousness. “I can’t go to the beach like this,” she remembered thinking.

But instead of staying behind, Tiera chose something different. She showed up anyway — scars and all.

Today, after even more surgeries, including a hip replacement that changed one of her favorite tattoos, she sees those scars differently. They tell the story of everything she’s endured and everything she’s overcome.

“This summer,” she says, “I’m showing out proudly — by the water, in the sun, scars and all — still showing up, still celebrating, and still busy living.”

Her experience is one many survivors recognize: Learning that healing isn’t about returning to the person you were before cancer. It’s about making peace with the person you’ve become.

The Invisible Weight of Survivorship

This summer marks an incredible milestone for Cervivor Program Coordinator Lauren Lastauskas: 10 years cancer-free.

“It’s a huge milestone,” she says.

Yet survivorship has taught her that milestones and mixed emotions can exist side by side.

Lauren was diagnosed with cervical cancer at 23. In the summer of 2017, she joined a weeklong whitewater kayaking trip with First Descents in Montana. “I absolutely loved the adventure,” she says, “but it was so hard to see how much my physical abilities had changed since cancer.”

A day at the beach or on the boat still means thinking about where the nearest restroom is because of long-term side effects. Hiking can aggravate nerve damage. Compression socks are a daily necessity because of lymphedema.

Then, every fall, another reminder arrives. As social media fills with back-to-school photos, Lauren is reminded of one of cancer’s lasting losses: the children she’ll never have.

“Ten years later,” she reflects, “summer is just a constant reminder that my body isn’t what it used to be.”

Summer, Through the Eyes of Cervical Cancer Survivors

We recently asked members of the Cervivor community how summer feels after cervical cancer. Their answers revealed that while every journey is different, many survivors carry invisible burdens that others never see.

“Summer is when it all started for me. I knew something was wrong, but I didn’t know what it was. Now, every summer feels like a blessing because I’m still here to experience it.” — Lindsay Gullatte-Lee, North Carolina, three-year survivor

“I was diagnosed in the summer of 2022. I call it ‘The Summer That Never Was.’ I spent those months in treatment and fighting blood clots. Was it worth it? Absolutely. I’d gladly give up another summer to still be here.” Ann Marie McHale Hartung, Massachusetts, 3.5-year survivor

“I am existing from scan to scan right now. I try to live life fully, but every three weeks, immunotherapy is a reminder. The fear of recurrence is always there.” Stephenie Milita Jacobs, Virginia, recent survivor

“Cancer changed the way I travel. I can’t book a vacation months in advance without wondering if I’ll still be in treatment. We always buy trip insurance, and I travel with a medical bag full of supplies. Vacation isn’t carefree anymore—but I still want to make memories with my family.” Sara Dennin Johney, Virginia, currently in treatment

“Summer used to be my favorite season. Now, with dual nephrostomy tubes, the heat and everything that comes with treatment, I often feel left out. I miss swimming, biking, and volleyball. Some days it’s easier to stay home, but I try to join in when I can.” Nancy Long, Michigan, currently in treatment

“Bilateral nephrostomies, compression stockings, medications that make me burn more easily—there are so many impediments to easy summer fun. I can’t swim with my kids, but I can still take them swimming. I’ve learned to adapt instead of giving up.” Lauren, Washington, 9-year survivor (6-year metastatic)

“I’m proud of my scars and my ostomy, but summer can still be hard. I’m constantly navigating weight changes from thyroid cancer and hormone imbalances, and I don’t always feel as comfortable in a bathing suit or summer dress as I once did. I remind myself I’m there to relax, but the anxiety sometimes gets to me.” — Karla Chavez Aplicano, Honduras, cervical and thyroid cancer survivor

“Being diagnosed just before Memorial Day, I spent my summers in treatment, and later my recurrences affected them, too. Even if all I could do was sit on my back porch with the sun on my face, I felt transformed. Find the little things that give you summer joy. It may not be the summer you planned, but it doesn’t have to dictate how you find your happiness.” Carol Lacey, California, 15-year survivor

Finding Your Own Summer — Together 

There isn’t one right way to navigate summer after cervical cancer.

Finding your own summer doesn’t mean pretending cancer never happened. It means making room for both gratitude and grief, healing and hard days, celebration and uncertainty. Most importantly, it means remembering that you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself.

If this season feels more complicated than carefree, here are a few ways to care for yourself and stay connected:

  • Redefine what a “good” summer looks like. Maybe it’s a weekend getaway — or maybe it’s an evening on the porch watching the sunset. Both count.
  • Stay connected instead of isolating. Request to join Cervivor’s private Facebook community, where thousands of people affected by cervical cancer share encouragement, practical advice, and honest conversations about survivorship.
  • Join us for Creating Connections. Our next virtual meetup is Tuesday, August 11, offering a welcoming space to connect with others who understand the realities of cervical cancer survivorship. You can also join one of our tailored community meetups, Cervivor Noir for Black survivors, or Café Con Leche for members of Cervivor Español. Each gathering offers support, conversation, and connection tailored to your lived experience.
  • Practice self-care in ways that truly serve you. Listen to your body, set boundaries, ask for help, rest when you need to, and celebrate what your body has carried you through. Self-care isn’t about perfection — it’s about giving yourself the compassion you’d offer a friend.
  • Remember that every survivor’s journey is different. However you’re spending this summer, your experience is valid.

Summer may remind you of what cervical cancer changed. But it can also remind you of your resilience, your capacity to adapt, and the community standing beside you every step of the way.

Even when the rest of the world feels “on vacation,” you never have to navigate cervical cancer survivorship alone.

Serving Strong: Cervical Cancer in Military Families and the Power of Prevention

By the Cervivor Communications Team

A few days after surgery, Alegra Woodard decided she was ready to get back to normal.

Recovering at home, the military spouse and cervical cancer survivor laced up her shoes and started a step aerobics workout. Within minutes, she stumbled and fell hard.

Lying on the floor, she wasn’t just embarrassed, she was terrified, thinking, “What if I tore my stitches? What if I hit my head? What if I couldn’t get up?”

Looking back, Alegra — now cancer-free for two-plus decades — realizes the moment represented more than a fall. It revealed something deeper about military life.

“As a military spouse, we have a tendency to want to demonstrate that we’re as brave as our spouses,” she says. “That we’re able to cope with adversity and pull ourselves together as part of our own contribution.”

Cervical cancer survivor Alegra Woodard smiles with her husband while sharing her experience with cervical cancer in military families for Cervivor.
Cervical cancer survivor Alegra Woodard and her husband, Bobby, an Air Force veteran, are chapter leaders for the National Cervical Cancer Coalition (NCCC) in Northern Virginia.

It’s one of the qualities that helps service members and their families weather deployments, relocations, and long separations. But when cervical cancer enters the picture, that same resilience can sometimes make it harder to ask for help — or even acknowledge that help is needed.

As Americans celebrate the 250th anniversary of Independence Day and honor those who serve, it’s also worth recognizing the families who stand beside them through every assignment, every challenge, and sometimes, every cancer diagnosis.

Read on as survivors, caregivers, and experts share how military life shapes the cervical cancer journey — and why prevention, early detection, and community matter every step of the way.

Why Military Women’s Health Is Essential to Readiness

When people think about military readiness, they often picture physical fitness tests, deployments, and operational training. Dr. Elizabeth Kostas-Polston thinks about Pap tests, HPV vaccination, and preventive care.

Dr. Elizabeth Kostas-Polston

An Air Force veteran, women’s health nurse practitioner, and nationally recognized HPV researcher, Dr. Kostas-Polston has spent decades caring for military families while studying how women’s health affects military readiness.

“The Military Health System is the second-largest healthcare system in the United States,” she explains. “It serves more than nine million beneficiaries” — including active-duty service members, National Guard and Reserve members, military spouses and children, retirees, and other eligible beneficiaries around the world.

For military families, access to healthcare is only part of the equation. As Dr. Kostas-Polston notes, “Equal access does not always mean equal follow-through.”

Frequent Permanent Change of Station (PCS) moves, deployments, changing healthcare providers, remote assignments, demanding work schedules, and varying levels of health literacy can all interrupt routine screenings or delay follow-up after an abnormal Pap or HPV test.

“The patient has to be an active participant,” she says, who recommends: 

  • Maintaining copies of medical records
  • Understanding recommended follow-up
  • Asking questions
  • Staying engaged with one’s healthcare especially when families move every few years

Military families, she says, must become partners in their own care.

That message resonates deeply with cervical cancer survivor Trish Byerly.

Navigating the Military Health System After a Cervical Cancer Diagnosis

Virginia resident Trish grew up in a Marine Corps family before marrying an active-duty Marine in 1998.

Two years later, while stationed near Walter Reed National Military Medical Center, the nation’s premier military hospital in Bethesda, MD, doctors found precancerous cervical changes. Because she needed additional procedures, her family’s PCS orders were delayed until treatment was complete.

After relocating, however, continuity of care became more challenging. Every six months, she found herself explaining her medical history to a new physician. Then came another setback.

“This was before the digital age,” she recalls. “After the precancer treatment, we were stationed at a smaller base and they lost my file.”

Nearly 20 years later, in 2017, Trish was diagnosed with Stage IB2 cervical cancer. Once again, she turned to Walter Reed.

Trish Byerly and her husband, Tom, a retired U.S. Marine, on the day of her cervical cancer surgery, nearly 20 years after receiving treatment for precancerous cervical changes at the same military hospital.

“When he told me I had cancer,” she says of her gynecologic oncologist, “he already had the plan.”

Within days, she had met her oncology team, completed pre-operative testing, and begun coordinated treatment. There were no insurance pre-authorizations delaying care. Her gynecologic oncologist met regularly with her infusion team, radiation oncologist, and case manager to coordinate every aspect of her treatment.

Today, after hearing many Cervivor stories about insurance battles and fragmented care, Trish says she sometimes felt almost guilty for how smoothly her own treatment unfolded.

“For years, I would lessen my cancer diagnosis because I felt unworthy and not entitled to complain,” says Trish, a 2025 Cervivor School graduate.

Her advice echoes Dr. Kostas-Polston’s: Keep copies of your medical records, ask questions, request care at a larger military treatment facility when appropriate, and take advantage of resources like the Fisher House Foundation if you need to travel for treatment. (Scroll down for additional resources.)

Ultimately, she says, “I think it’s important to speak up.”

How Military Families Face Cervical Cancer Together

If military life teaches resilience, it also teaches teamwork.

For Amanda Hunter and her husband, Joe, a U.S. Marine Corps veteran, those lessons became essential when Amanda was diagnosed with cervical cancer just months after the birth of their first child.

“We had a 3-month-old infant at the time,” says Kentucky-based Amanda. “My husband didn’t think twice about stepping up where I couldn’t, all while continuing to work a full-time job.”

Amanda and Joe Hunter with their toddler son. He was just three months old when Amanda underwent cervical cancer treatment, while Joe — a Marine veteran — managed their insurance claims, finances, and caregiving.

She believes his military experience equipped him for one of the hardest missions of his life.

“I think his background in the military prepared him for stressful situations and helped him be the leader I needed during surgery and treatment,” says Amanda, who will celebrate her third cancerversary this October.  

Joe Hunter during active military service.
Amanda’s husband, Joe, during his active-duty service in the U.S. Marine Corps.

Joe describes his approach in distinctly military terms. “Triage,” he says simply. “The military mindset is to observe, gather all the intel you can, and take decisive action.”

For him, that meant researching treatment options, documenting insurance claims, appealing denials when necessary, managing finances, caring for their newborn son, maintaining the household, and making sure Amanda always had the support she needed.

One lesson stands out above all. “As caregivers, we want to control every aspect of our loved one’s treatment,” Joe says. “But I had to let her have the final decision about her treatment pathway.” Amanda needed confidence in her treatment plan, he explains, and he needed to be ready to advocate for her if she couldn’t advocate for herself.

Looking back, Amanda says her husband’s support went far beyond practical tasks.

“He took on everything treatment-related for me financially,” she says. “I never felt like an option for treatment was out of reach.”

Today, survivorship continues to shape their marriage.

“We definitely don’t take our time together for granted now,” Amanda says. “With the physical changes from radical hysterectomy and chemoradiation, we’ve had to figure out how to be intimate again. It has required a lot of patience and grace.”

Joe also learned the importance of caring for himself. He encourages other military caregivers to document everything, use available support resources, and look for moments of joy along the way. “When we had to take long drives or extended trips for her care,” he says, “we tried to turn them into miniature vacations.”

The Emotional Impact of Cervical Cancer on Military Families

Cancer doesn’t only change the person diagnosed. It changes the people who love them.

For Alegra’s husband, Bobby, a retired Air Force Master Sergeant, one memory has never faded.

Before surgery, doctors explained that if they discovered the cancer had spread, they would stop the procedure and simply tell the family how much time she had left.

Alegra had one request. If the news was good, bring flowers to her recovery room. If it wasn’t, don’t.

“In my mind,” Bobby says, “there were going to be flowers regardless.”

More than 25 years later, he admits he still hasn’t fully recovered from the experience. “I am still a helicopter husband,” he says.

When Military Service Meets Family Caregiving

Missourian Kim Arnold understands the power of family support from yet another perspective.

Kim Arnold

In 2019, she was facing a metastatic recurrence while working full-time, caring for her mother with dementia, and raising her family. “I didn’t have time to be sick,” she says.

Her middle son was serving on active duty overseas. Without telling her, he requested leave. His commander approved it immediately.

“I didn’t even know he was coming home,” Kim says. “He showed up at one of my chemo treatments and surprised me.” Though she says she doesn’t cry easily, “I cried when he gave me a hug.”

For the next month, he drove her an hour each way to chemotherapy and radiation. During those daily drives, they talked about his childhood, his military service, his dreams for the future, and the sacrifices she had made raising three boys on her own. He thanked her for being a good mom.

“We were essentially saying the things we had never said,” Kim says, “just in case we didn’t get the chance later.”

Her oldest son attended every chemotherapy appointment. Her youngest became what she affectionately calls her “hype kid.” Even her mother, on her good days, cared for her in return.

“Positive family interactions give a cancer patient the strength to keep going,” says Kim, now cancer-free for six years. “The love gives them hope for the future.”

Cervical Cancer Prevention Is Part of the Mission

For Dr. Kostas-Polston, these stories all point back to one simple truth: The strongest military families are not only resilient — they’re proactive.

Protecting readiness means staying current on cervical cancer screening, following up promptly after an abnormal Pap or HPV test, and ensuring eligible children receive the HPV vaccine, which can prevent six HPV-related cancers later in life.

Whether serving on active duty, supporting a loved one through deployments, or navigating life after military service, prevention remains one of the most powerful ways families can protect one another.

Cervical Cancer Resources for Military Families and Veterans

Military families and veterans have access to a number of resources — including our own organization — that can help with cervical cancer prevention, treatment, and survivorship:

  • TRICARE – TRICARE is the uniform services healthcare program for active-duty service members, retirees, and their families. It fully covers annual preventive women’s health services with no out-of-pocket costs (including Pap and HPV tests and pelvic exams) as well as the HPV vaccination for beneficiaries aged 9 to 45, follow-up diagnostic testing and procedures, specialty referrals, and cancer treatment for eligible beneficiaries.
  • Health.mil – This is the official public website of the Military Health System (MHS) and the Defense Health Agency (DHA). It offers information about preventive care, reproductive health, and women’s health services, including where and how to access care at Military Treatment Facilities (MTFs) globally. The Cervical Cancer page is an especially valuable resource.
  • VA Women’s Health – A dedicated branch of the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA), it addresses the unique physical and mental health needs of women veterans enrolled in VA healthcare. Every VA medical center features a dedicated Women Veterans Program Manager to help navigate care, from routine screenings to advanced cancer specialty care, physical rehabilitation, and survivorship support. Eligible veterans may also receive care from community providers when appropriate.
  • Fisher House Foundation – Fisher House is highly respected for providing “a home away from home” for families of patients receiving medical care at major military and VA medical centers. It provides free lodging for eligible military and veteran families who must travel away from home for medical treatment (like cancer therapy).
  • Cervivor, Inc. – Founded 21 years ago by cervical cancer survivor Tamika Felder, Cervivor has grown into a leading patient advocacy organization dedicated to ending cervical cancer and HPV-related cancers. Through peer support, education, advocacy, and community-building, Cervivor empowers patients, survivors, and caregivers to share their stories and ensure no one faces cervical cancer alone

Military families spend their lives answering the call to serve. By making prevention, early detection, and HPV vaccination part of that mission, they can help ensure that future generations spend less time fighting cancer — and more time living the healthy lives they’ve worked so hard to protect. 

This Independence Day, Team Cervivor thanks the service members, veterans, military spouses, caregivers, and families who protect our nation, and who, every day, protect one another.