Choosing Mindfulness in the New Year

For as long as I can remember, I have had some level of deep sadness with the ending of Christmas and the bringing in of the New Year. For my family, the “holidays” begin at Halloween and basically go to January 1, with the climax being Christmas, followed by New Year’s Day. On January 1, you begin to realize that it’s actually over and there is no other major holiday for months, at least the kind where you get out of school. As an adult, these feelings were only perpetuated by the fact that I became an elementary teacher, where my calendar was constantly driven by cultural holidays and breaks.

Even as a girl, I remember having a sense of sadness hearing my parents talk about loved ones who had passed and how things were so different than when they were kids.  As Christmas Eve turned to New Year’s Eve in a matter of days, it felt empty. The build up seemed so long, for what was only a couple of days of magic. I have memories of Auld Lang Syne making my chest well up, even as child. It all just seemed so fleeting. With the dropping of the Times Square ball each year came feelings of dread. Back to school. Back to work. Back to normal life.

However, this has all changed in my survivorship. Since cancer, I choose to live all my days differently. I live in a different state of mind. Cancer brings you face to face with mortality, death, and time. For many of us it’s the first time in our lives that we have truly sat with those things-not just knowing it as fact but really taking it in and allowing it to shape our lives. Something that a lot of people never do and if they do, they are much older. Once I began to digest my mortality, it changed my mindset toward every single thing. I no longer look at holidays or the holiday season with the same weight and importance. I still love them, and Christmas is STILL my favorite. BUT I live with much more intention and purpose now. Every day is Christmas because for me it’s a state of mind that I choose. The New Year now brings hope and excitement. I no longer get sad when the ball drops. Instead, I get excited about the next 365 days of new opportunity and growth. BUT this isn’t something that just happens. And for me, it takes a bit of work.

My therapist and I are working on mindfulness and this is why; He explained that for those of us who have experienced a traumatic life event like cancer, we can experience depression about the past and anxiety when we think about the future. Anyone else feel this way? When I think about my life before cancer, I loved it. Sure, I had experienced my share of heartache like anyone else and life wasn’t perfect, but it was good. I was healthy, I liked what I saw in the mirror, I wasn’t in and out of hospitals, I had extra money, I felt great, I loved my job-life was good. I can look back on it and quickly get depressed that my life looks so drastically different now and all out of my control. On the flip side of that, when I look to the future, I can get extremely anxious. Will my one kidney that I have left continue to work? How long will I have to go in and out for stent changes? Will I end up on dialysis? If I have a recurrence, what will be my treatment options since I have mid-stage CKD now? Will I ever be a mom? Will I have enough money for retirement? And so on and so forth.

It’s perfectly normal after cancer to have these feelings of depression and anxiety. However, once we acknowledge them, we get to CHOOSE what to do with them. My therapist is working with me on being present. Being in the moment. And it makes sense because it’s all we are guaranteed.  Mindfulness helps me to acknowledge those feelings of lament and anxiety but then choose to be fully present in the here and now. This allows me to breathe, to be free, and most of all to be content. Mindfulness allows me to look at 2019 and set goals but fully put my energy and thoughts into today. It gives me control in the chaos and helps me thrive in present.

Wherever you find yourself today-whether you’re experiencing sadness and grief of the past or you’re looking at the next twelve months feeling anxious of the unknown, or some mixture of both-I challenge you to see your survivorship through the lens of mindfulness and lean into the present.

Holly Lawson is a cervical cancer survivor and Community Engagement Liaison for Cervivor. She resides in the Dallas-Fort Worth area with her partner Claude and their furbaby Luna. Read her story here.

The Incredible Feeling of Being the Last Runner

As most of you know, I was diagnosed with cervical cancer at the age of 27. My cancer battle wasn’t easy; actually, I don’t think anyone’s cancer battle is easy but it seems people think some of us had it easier because we didn’t die or we “look normal” now. Cancer is a life-threatening, life-altering illness no matter what the stage. Those of us who survive, often face life-long side effects that can make routine things quite complicated if not impossible.

I think most people don’t realize that cancer rarely comes alone and that the treatments that may cure you will leave you with a variety of problems you never even thought of. My cancer battle was complicated by blood clots to my heart and lungs that left me weak and fatigued for months; the treatments did their job but also left me with life-long side effects. Yes, as expected chemotherapy had me throwing up at all hours of the day and radiation did cause menopause (hot flashes and all) killing any chance of motherhood and other problems started popping up shortly after; but chemo had an extra gift for me: peripheral neuropathy.

The first time I noticed “my balance was off,” was at church while I was walking to the front after a pastor made a call; I remember swerving as I was walking down the aisle, it looked as if I was drunk… I simply couldn’t walk a straight line. Within a few days I started experiencing this weird sensation in my hands and legs, they felt as if I had gloves and high boots on, they were numb. And then, things just went downhill; my handwriting resembled that of my mother’s first grade students and I started to need help getting dressed because I couldn’t hook my own bra or button my own clothes. I needed support walking and driving was completely out of the question since I was unable to gauge how much pressure to put on the gas or brake pedal. I was falling all over the place; one minute I was standing right in front of you and the next I was falling down because my legs would not hold me. Things got so bad that I once cut my foot open while closing a screen door and didn’t feel the cut at all. The only indication I had of the cut was blood pouring out of my foot, I actually required stitches! After many tests involving lots needles and vibrating objects, the Physiatrist diagnosed me with peripheral neuropathy and told me it was not curable. He explained that the chemo acted as a poison in the body and it had affected my peripheral nerves and there wasn’t anything he could do to cure it. His only recommendation was to take a vitamin B complex daily and see if that helped. I bought the vitamins even though I was completely discouraged.

To this day I don’t know if I was misdiagnosed or if a miracle had happened (I lean towards this last one). But even though it took years, things did improve and the day came when I my handwriting was once again legible and I was back to wearing high heels (believe me, this is important for any Puerto Rican girl). The only reminder I have of those days when I was unable to walk without support are the scar on my right foot and a very firm and loud gait.

So, there you have it. THAT is why being able to run has been huge for me, HUGE!!! I mean, I never ran a day in my life prior to cancer. I used my asthma card faithfully to get out of PE all through middle school and high school. After what I’ve been through, after all that cancer did to my body, being able to run is extremely meaningful. It has been difficult, quite challenging, and even frustrating at times but I still love running it and the feeling of crossing the finish line after every single 5k and 10k I’ve taken on.

This year I took on the challenge of running one of The North Face Endurance Challenge half-marathons and I trained faithfully. For months, I woke up early for training runs, even on Sundays; but I was rewarded by cooler temperatures and incredible sunrises. I learned to love the feeling of running in the quiet hours of the morning when the neighbors are still sleeping and even though at times my body ached, I would summon the strength to pull through.

And so on the particularly hot morning of Sept 16th, 2018 I started running my first half-marathon. I knew early on that I would be the last runner to cross the finish line; but I also knew that no matter what, I would cross that finish line and I would celebrate it as if it was a 1st place win. I started on wave 4 with many other runners and somewhere around mile 2 or 3 every single runner had passed me. At some point I lost sight of all runners in front of me and I ran alone for miles. I must confess that I walked every rocky hill but I ran as much of the flat and downhill terrain as I could. I was slow but I was steady. The race crew encouraged me on every single aid station and reminded me that I was doing well. At some point I started hearing voices behind me, I thought for a moment there were other runners behind me, not such luck, it was the crew picking up signage and markings after I, the last runner, passed them, ha! I kept moving forward, one foot in front of the other; a slow but steady pace. I would eventually come across other runners and by that I mean all the runners making their loop back to the start/finish line; they encouraged me as they flew by. I kept moving forward, slow and steady… Eventually I caught up to the couple in front of me and was able to keep up with them for the last few miles; in the end, they finished 2 minutes ahead of me; they too worked hard to complete this run. I was so, so happy to see the finish line and I ran to it as fast as I could.  I can’t describe the pure joy that moment brought to me… how much it meant… I crossed that finish line 3 hours and 31 seconds after I started; I was in fact dead last but oh what a sweet, sweet victory!

As I look back I realize I have come a long way. My body has been changed forever and it will never work as well as it did before cancer but I have learned to live in it and try to keep it as healthy as possible. Every run counts, even if I’m the last one, my body is able to run. I am grateful.

Dear reader, you can prevent cervical cancer. Please schedule your Pap and HPV tests regularly and make sure you vaccinate your children against HPV and protect them against the virus which has been linked to 6 different types of cancer. For more information visit To read more about Maria’s cervical cancer journey, visit the link to her Cervivor story here